Brandon Marshall and the Super Bowl

 

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Brandon Tyrone Marshall (wide receiver with Jets) won’t be playing with the Denver Broncos in the Super Bowl this year, but if he was I would be rooting for him. (not Brandon Marshall, linebacker, who is questionable in today’s game.)

I live near Charlotte, NC so therefore I will be rooting for the Panthers.  However, if Brandon was still playing for the Denver Broncos, I would definitely be rooting for him.

Brandon Marshall went to my alma mater (University of Central Florida).  However, that is not why I would be rooting for him. He has broken many records, and earned honors,awards while playing with four franchises. However, that is not why I would be rooting for him either.

The reason I would be rooting him is for what he has done for the mental health community.  He wore green sneakers  during mental illness awareness week for mental illness in 2013 even though he had to pay over $10,000 in fines. He has been open and honest about his struggles with borderline personality disorder.

He has talked about it on television and the most amazing thing he has done regarding helping others to understand his mental illness is to start his own organization Project Borderline. This organization’s goal are to spread the words about BPD, fight the stigma associated with it, educate people about the illness, advocate, reach out to others struggling with a mental illness and to bridge the gap between patients, clinicians, and the public.

“He intends to change the face and the future of this disorder so that those who have suffered in silence, who spent years of their lives feeling trapped by their own emotions, and who once thought that they had reached a place beyond hope will have the opportunity to build a better life for themselves.”

By having this project and talking honestly about his illness he  has helped others who have  mental illness more than he probably knows. He has shown them that they should not be ashamed.  By doing so, I am sure many people have sought out help.

He is doing so much to help eradicate the stigma and raise awareness about mental illness.

He might not be getting a super bowl ring this year, but he should be earning  a far better reward as far as I am concerned.

In honor of Black History Month I created an infographic showing others black celebrities, including athletes who have mental illnesses and are helping to erase the stigma.  Thanks to Brandon Marshall and these celebrities for making a difference.

 

 

 

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Black Celebrities who have a Mental Illness

IN HONOR OF BLACK HISTORY MONTH

The list of black celebrities is endless.  These courageous people have paved the way for so many others to become singers, doctors, lawyers, athletes, politicians, teachers, scientists, and more.

What you might not have considered is that some of these celebrities also have a mental illness.  Below is a list of those people who have not just overcome the adversities they face because the color of the skin, but also have had to face their mental illness and the stigma that is often associated with mental illness.

Thanks to these brave black people who fight the fight every day giving those suffering from mental illness hope.  Thanks to the many brave individuals who have shared their stories to help eradicate the stigma.

BLACKS WHO HAVE MENTAL ILLNESSES:

Disclaimer: I confirmed that each person has a mental illness by using several sources.   If you click the link on the celebrity’s name it will direct you to an article that discusses their mental illness. In most cases the celebrity has talked openly about their illness. However, I do realize that the internet and media are not always accurate.  Therefore, if you don’t feel like someone should be on the list, please contact me at Bipolar Bandit .   Also, I take no ownership in any of the photos used in the infographic. The majority of pictures were found via Pinterest and source is unknown. 

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Black History Month and Mental Illness

Please note: I, in no way have meant to disrespect anyone. It is merely to point some things out about mental illnesses. I hope that no one takes offense to this blog in any way.   If for some reason you are offended  you can contact me at Bipolar Bandit because I would love to hear from you and would be willing to change things if warranted.  

bhmThere are a lot of successful people in this world who are black.  They have done impressive things in their lives including being doctors, lawyers, artists, business men/women, ministers, soldiers, politicians, teachers, and the list goes on.

During Black History Month we are reminded that a lot of famous people from the black community deserve recognition for how much they have change the world for the better.  I am not talking about just people who are black, but all of us.  I really would like to think that they are, however history and current circumstances unfortunately tell us that this is still not true for everyone.     We learn about people who were born black in school in a positive way.  We learn that against all odds, they took on the world and did not let the color of their skin keep them from doing things that changed the world for the better.

The people from the black community, famous  or not,  are people the black community look up to and other races are amazed at.  They are not ashamed of  who they are and have not let the color of their skin keep them back from what they wanted to do with their lives. Although some people in society are judgmental and racists, no one can deny how successful they are.  Many people coming from the black  community  are idols for many and in some cases have made such a difference in the world that they are famous for what they have done.

I am sure it is still hard  in some parts of our society I will truly never understand how it is to be black.  However, I do know the feeling of being looked at differently.  I can relate to people thinking that I can’t do anything I want to do in life.  I understand  people who don’t accept me because of who I am.  I also can relate to feeling like to being an outcast at times.  It is not because of the color of my skin,however,but because I have a mental illness. Just like those people who are not white have had to face many obstacles, so have those with mental illnesses.

The history books tell us about black people who have made a difference in the civil rights movement and others who have showed others that anything can be done if one sets their minds to it.  However, how many of those people do you know have a mental illness?  It is usually hidden.  That is a shame as they should not have to hide it or be ashamed by it.  People with mental illnesses should not be isolated or looked at differently any more than people who are not white

Please read “I Have a Dream regarding Mental Illness” if you have not already.  Just like people who are black can do anything against all odds, people who have mental illnesses will hopefully be able to do the same in the near future without being judged or held back just because they have a mental illness.

I started out this blog intending to write about all the people who are not white who have mental illnesses, but it turned into a different blog entirely.  Please read this blog to see better what I intended for this blog to go.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Reality of Mental Illness “They Say” by Allen Minor

Warning: This could be triggering

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They say… -They say that everyday above ground is a good day.
They say when life gives you lemons you’ve gotta make lemonade.
They say that when things don’t turn out the right way
That’s okay because tomorrow is always a new day,
Ya know, they say a lot of things about how I should feel, -But let’s get real,
They don’t know me
They are not me
They don’t have to force themselves out of bed every morning and stumble to the mirror and see me.
And I’m not talking about the me that they’d see
If they were standing next to me
As I shied away from my reflection,
I’m talking about the REAL me.
The secret me that I keep hidden behind lock and key -Because I know that if they ever saw it -Even THEY’D say that those lemons are too spoiled,
And even water and sugar can’t help THAT medicine go down. -And I’m not talking about the Depakote, Wellbutrin, or Xanax getting caught in your throat,
To quote Alanis Morissette, I’m talking about the jagged little pill that they call truth
Getting stuck because it’s too hard to swallow. ….
De Cartes said, “I think, therefore I am.” -He said that the only thing that I can be sure of is that I exist,
Beyond this, everything else is a question.
Nowhere is this proven more true
Than in those with mental health issues.
You can give me all your quotes, proverbs, and platitudes,
But the fact is that for me
Tomorrow is not a new day.
It may be true for you,
But obviously my truth is different than yours,
Because when I lie in bed the night before
I don’t think about tomorrow. -I think about today,
What I could’ve, should’ve, would’ve done better than I did yesterday,
And I can’t stop the relay race of thoughts in my mind
As they reach back in time -Struggling to find -Every single thing that I’ve ever done wrong,
So it can take it from yesterday and pass it off to today -And remind me that tomorrow is not a new day,
It’s just a new way of getting it wrong. ….
They say… -They say that they can’t understand how anyone could be so selfish as to take their own life. 
Well I say -I don’t understand how anyone can be so blind as to see someone set on fire everyday -And not understand why they might want to put out the flames.
I say… -I say that I can’t understand how anyone could be so selfish as to want someone to burn -Just so they don’t have to feel guilty or question anything.
And I’m not saying that suicide is the right way,
And I’m not saying that’s how I want to end things, -But that’s what mental illness is.
“I think, therefore I am,” -“I think, therefore I am,” -“I think, therefore I am,” -And when I am in pain seemingly every single day -It makes sense that eventually all I’m going to think about is how to make that go away. -It makes sense that if all I can think about is the pain of yesterday,
Then tomorrow is not really a new day, -Because that means that today is just remembering or anticipating the same old pain in new ways. …. -Fear of judgement is the number one reason that those with mental health issues do not seek help. -They say that society is getting better with that.
Suicide is the 8th leading cause of death in the US. -They say that society is getting better with that. -Along with millions of other people, I suffer from mental health issues. -They say that we’ll get better with that. -They say that tomorrow is new day. -They say… -They say…a lot of things.
But now it’s time for them to understand.
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Guest Post: Behind the Smile by Patricia Grace

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For those of you that have met me I’m sure you’d probably say I seem like a really happy go lucky kinda person. For those of you who haven’t met me I’m sure you’d probably say similar. After all I am a very optimistic and a positive type of person. You can probably tell this from my posts on Muddled Up Mummy. But there is more to me than meets the eye. Behind the smile there is a whole other person. A person who has been through more than most people you know. So let me introduce to you the real me.

I was born in Perth WA Australia in 1984. I was born into what seemed like the perfect little family. To onlookers it would have been. Behind closed doors though it was far from that. At first things seemed good. Well for a bit they were. Then my brother was born and soon things turned really sour in our perfect little family scenario.

First it started with my Mother. Mentally and physically abused by the person who was supposed to love her. After a couple of years my Father kidnapped my brother and I and fled to the capital of Australia, Canberra.

My Mother soon followed but he wouldn’t let her see us. She was devastated, and the fact the she already suffered from poor mental health didn’t help. As time went on my Father got worse. Hurting everyone, even his own kids. Once he put me in hospital in the Intensive Care Unit, fighting for my life. What he did to me is a bit too much to share though, but so you all know it wasn’t pretty and I was only 4. Another day he was sick of me and put me in the car boot while he was driving.

My brother and I were living in fear. Every mistake we made suffered dear consequences at the hands of our so called Father. This went on for quite some time, until authorities finally stepped in and we were saved and we went to live in foster care. We soon started seeing our Mother and that eventually became every Saturday. She was the most beautiful soul and I knew this already at such a young age. It was sad for us though as she suffered from Bipolar and really couldn’t take care of us full time. So when we did see her we really looked forward to it.

We adored her so much. In my eyes she was perfect and could do no wrong. At the time though we didn’t even know she wasn’t well mentally. Then one day just before I turned 11 she passed away from a burst aneurysm in the brain. I felt an angel had been taken from earth. I was so sad. Even angry. God had taken one of the most beautiful souls on earth and it had to be my own Mother. I took this out on my foster mum because in my eyes she would never be or replace MY MUM.

I was really down for many years. I was never the same after my Mother died. As I got older I started to date. I was in 3 serious relationships over a period a 8 years. Two of them were disasters. The other wasn’t that great either. Violence. Mental abuse. Name calling. Control. Alcoholism. Cheating. These were just some of things I had to endure. After I finally got free from this evil dating spiral I realised I‘d been dating versions of my dad and lost a lot of trust in people. After years of torment I developed a mental illness.

Although doctors believe now I had problems with mental illness from a young age as I would constantly struggle. But after all my trauma from both my childhood and from adulthood I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD.) I tried to take my life many times and was in hospital a lot. Slowly though I started to understand it was trauma from my past catching up to me and invading my life like a virus I couldn’t shake.

With a lot of support I got my life back on track. It took a lot of strength and plenty of counseling but I got there. But this wasn’t the end of my struggles. It turns out I had Bipolar. I was diagnosed with it a couple of years ago but they say it’s been around for awhile and just wasn’t being treated. I hated getting this label. It made me feel like I must be some kind of crazy. But you know what it really doesn’t make me crazy at all.

I can’t help that I have this. They say it was probably passed down to me because both my parents have it. But each day after finding out I would wake up, realise I have this label and it would get me down. So one day I decided to ditch the label. I decided I am who I am and not the label I’d been given. So this is me.
I’m intelligent and witty.
I’m not Bipolar.
I have a positive outlook on life even if I have some really down days.
I’m not Bipolar.
I can actually be pretty funny.
I’m not Bipolar.
I’m good looking.
I’m not Bipolar.
I’m an amazing mother.
I’m not Bipolar.
I’m a great friend, partner, sister, daughter and aunty.
I’m not Bipolar.
I am me.
I’m not Bipolar.

So although I have this label that I don’t really like I try not to focus on it. I focus on all the other things that make me me. I take my meds and get on with it. But I do have days that are really hard. I have anxiety attacks at times. Some days I don’t really feel like talking to anyone. But amongst all this I’ve decided Bipolar doesn’t define me.

It doesn’t make me a freak. It’s just something I’ve been dealt and I’ve learnt to be ok with that. So much so that I’m now sharing this. Most of my family and friends don’t even know I have this. This will probably even surprise some of them. I used to be so ashamed because of the stigma behind Mental Health that I didn’t want anybody to know. But not anymore.

There needs to be more awareness so this is my part in spreading it.

Mental Illness doesn’t define a person. But you still need to be aware it’s there. It’s a struggle and if you think those with it can just suck it up and learn to be happy. They can’t. It doesn’t work like that. So please share my story as awareness is key in removing the stigma and being more open about the struggles that some people face. Make a note to yourself that you truly don’t know someone and their struggles unless they are open about it. So spread some awareness so more people feel they can open up. Also try to be more understanding when they do because if we can all do this it just might save a life.

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The History of Bipolar Disorder Infographic

History of Bipolar Disorder

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Bipolar Disorder Statistics Infographic

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Types of Bipolar Disorder Infographic

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Treatments for Bipolar Disorder Infographic

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Stigma

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